In an age of confusion, rebellion, and moral decay, there is no calling more despised than that of the Christian wife. The world mocks her submission, ridicules her obedience, and scorns her devotion to home and husband. Yet heaven smiles upon her. For while feminists rant and career women crumble, she quietly builds a kingdom from her kitchen table.
She is not oppressed—she is exalted.
She is not silenced—she is sanctified.
She is not enslaved—she is set apart.
A Christian wife is not merely a helper. She is a house-builder, a covenant-keeper, a cornerstone of generational blessing. Her duties are not the result of cultural conditioning, but of God’s eternal decree. And if we are to restore the Great Order, we must restore the honor, dignity, and gravity of the wife’s sacred duties.
Let us now walk the ancient paths and examine what Scripture, history, and reason say about the glorious office of wifehood under God.
I. Her Position: Under Authority, Not Underfoot
The first duty of the Christian wife is to embrace her position under headship.
“But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man…”
—1 Corinthians 11:3
This is not chauvinism—it is creational order. The wife is not the head of her own life. She is under her husband, just as he is under Christ.
Submission is not passive. It is active obedience. It means yielding, following, honoring, and supporting the man God has given her. It is a visible reflection of the Church’s relationship to Christ:
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.”
—Ephesians 5:22
To resist her husband’s authority is to resist Christ. To obey him is to honor heaven. This is not blind servitude—it is intelligent devotion to God’s hierarchy.
II. Her Purpose: Created for the Man
The Christian wife must understand her creation purpose.
“Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.”
—1 Corinthians 11:9
Eve was made to complete Adam’s dominion—not to compete with it. Her very existence is a help to her husband’s mission. Her home, body, time, and gifts are not her own. They are to be offered daily in support of her lord—her husband.
This counters every message of the modern world. Feminism preaches female independence, but the Bible teaches female interdependence—a woman exists to glorify her head, to multiply his legacy, to help him fulfill his calling.
Her duty is to ask: What is my husband’s mission, and how can I assist it with all diligence?
III. Her Attitude: Meekness and Quiet Strength
The Christian wife’s duty is not only external submission but internal disposition.
“Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”
—1 Peter 3:6
True obedience flows from the heart. A nagging, bitter, or anxious woman may perform tasks but defile her home. The Scripture praises a woman who is meek, gentle, quiet, and full of trust in God.
This meekness is not weakness. It is self-governed strength. The world encourages women to be loud, angry, and assertive. But God blesses the woman who speaks softly, works quietly, and bears hardship with grace.
Such a woman is a balm to her husband’s soul and a pillar to her home.
IV. Her Labor: Keeper at Home
Perhaps no duty is more countercultural today than the wife’s calling to work within the home.
“That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home…”
—Titus 2:4–5
A Christian wife is not a corporate assistant. She is the chief operating officer of the household. She manages schedules, educates children, prepares food, maintains cleanliness, facilitates hospitality, supports business, and guards the spiritual tone of the house.
This work is not menial. It is dominion work. It is civilization-building. When a wife abandons the home, the whole order collapses. Children are raised by the state. Meals are replaced by chemicals. The husband is dishonored. The household loses its center.
A woman who labors in her home fulfills her purpose. And she reaps eternal reward.
V. Her Demeanor: Modesty and Distinction
A Christian wife does not dress to please the world. She dresses to reflect shamefacedness and sobriety (1 Timothy 2:9).
Her attire should:
- Cover her body respectfully
- Distinguish her as a woman
- Honor her husband’s standards
- Avoid sensuality, vanity, and androgyny
She should not wear pants, tight clothing, or fashion designed to attract other men. She does not follow trends—she follows the Book.
Her voice is soft. Her posture is reverent. Her demeanor says, I am under authority and at peace in my role.
VI. Her Joy: Bearing and Raising Children
The wife’s crown is not in a corner office. It is in her children.
“I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house…”
—1 Timothy 5:14
Fruitfulness is not a burden. It is a blessing and duty. The Christian wife should be eager to bear as many children as the Lord will give. Birth control, abortion, and sterilization are tools of rebellion, not righteousness.
Once children are born, her duty continues. She:
- Nurses and nurtures them
- Trains them in obedience
- Disciplines them with love and firmness
- Catechizes them in the faith
- Protects them from worldly influence
She does not send them to strangers. She does not outsource motherhood. She gives herself daily, joyfully, to their formation.
VII. Her Loyalty: Severing Ties with the Old Life
A wife must leave behind all former allegiances.
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife…”
—Genesis 2:24
When a woman marries, she dies to her former self. She is no longer under her father’s authority. She is no longer bound to friendships that conflict with her husband’s order. She belongs to her husband—and to him alone.
This means:
- No private conversations with male friends
- No secret texting or social media flirtation
- No complaints about her husband to outsiders
- No prioritizing parents over her own house
She is one flesh with her husband. And her loyalty must reflect that union.
VIII. Her Conduct: Chaste in All Things
The Christian wife is a woman of chastity, sobriety, and fear of the Lord.
She is not a gossip. She is not flirtatious. She does not laugh at crude jokes or follow celebrity trash. She is not addicted to the phone or the television. Her life is centered, rooted, and stable.
“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
—Proverbs 31:10
She is rare. She is radiant. And her conduct brings honor to her husband, joy to her children, and glory to her King.
IX. Her Fellowship: Submissive Among Sisters
A Christian wife is not isolated. She walks with other God-fearing women—not to complain, but to sharpen.
Her fellowship is:
- With other submissive wives
- Centered on Scripture and prayer
- Accountable to older, Titus 2 women
- Guarded against bitterness, comparison, and discontent
She avoids idle chatter and “ladies’ nights” that undermine her household. She encourages other women to honor their husbands, be fruitful, and stay grounded in the home.
X. Her Weapon: Prayer and Intercession
The Christian wife is not silent in heaven. She prays for her household. She brings her husband before the throne. She weeps over her children in secret. She wars against spiritual darkness.
She is a spiritual force in the home—not by teaching over men, but by petitioning heaven daily.
“The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man [or woman] availeth much.”
—James 5:16
XI. Her Spirit: Gratitude and Reverence
A godly wife is not a grumbler. She is not bitter. She is not discontent. She is thankful.
She thanks God for her role. She rejoices in the children, the kitchen, the chaos, and the peace. She sees her work not as a curse, but as a calling.
She fears God. She reverences her husband. She embraces her station.
And in doing so, she displays the glory of God more than any CEO or influencer ever could.
XII. Her Crown: The Fruit of Her Labor
A Christian wife who fulfills her duties will reap bountiful fruit:
- Her husband praises her. (Proverbs 31:28)
- Her children rise up and bless her.
- Her household flourishes in peace.
- Her community respects her.
- Her God smiles upon her.
Let others chase vanity. Let women burn out in office towers. Let them trade their wombs for worthless paychecks.
As for the Christian wife—she builds a house, trains a nation, and pleases the Lord.
XIII. Her End: Glorified by Her Faithfulness
When her work is done, the faithful wife will hear:
“Well done, thou good and faithful servant…”
She will be greeted not with the applause of crowds, but the approval of heaven.
She will not regret missing a career.
She will not wish she had more applause.
She will rejoice that she poured herself out for her household.
Conclusion: Let the Wives Rise
Let the Christian wife no longer be ashamed of her role. Let her not apologize. Let her stand tall in submission, labor, purity, and praise.
Her duties are divine.
Let every woman who fears God examine herself.
- Are you submitted to your husband?
- Are you guarding your home?
- Are you dressing in holiness?
- Are you training your children in the fear of God?
- Are you grateful for your calling?
This is the wife of the Great Order. She is rare. She is radiant. She is a weapon in the hand of God.
Let her arise.
Soli Deo Gloria.