This is not a motivational speech.
This is not a Hallmark moment, a TED Talk, or an Instagram-ready “purpose-driven life” fluff piece. This is a war cry. A battle hymn. A declaration of intent, forged not in comfort but in conflict.
I was not raised to be the man I have become or am becoming. I was not trained for this. I was not handed the tools or the vision by my father the way I should have been. I was not surrounded by men of conviction, purpose, and strength, in-fact quite the opposite. I had to become what I should have been taught to be as a child. I had to learn, from the wreckage of my life and from the ruins of a collapsing civilization, what a man is, what a man must do, and what he must live for.
Every man must have a purpose. Not a dream. Not a feeling. Not a wish. A purpose. A goal. A burden. A direction. A vision of legacy. Without this, he is dead already. He may walk, eat, earn money, even reproduce (unfortunately) but he will never truly build, lead, or really matter.
And this was once known to all men inherently.
The Death of Male Purpose
Until just a few generations ago, this was common knowledge. A man existed to labor, to lead, to fight, to provide, to protect, to build. His identity was tied to the work of his hands and the fruit of his sacrifice. No man needed a seminar to know that he was born to take dominion.
Now, the average man is told that his purpose is his self happiness.
He is told he is most virtuous when he is most “self-expressive,” most “true to himself,” most “comfortable in his skin.” He is told to chase careers, money, entertainment, prestige, sex, and status. He is told that a successful life is one where he gets everything he wants, lives in comfort and has as little responsibility as possible. That he deserves praise for simply existing. That any sacrifice asked of him is oppression.
We have traded duty for dopamine. Discipline for therapy. Dominion for “mental health days.” We are told to serve ourselves, our careers, our government, or whatever political slogan currently sits on the throne of Babylon. But we are not told to serve our wives. We are not told to serve our children. We are certainly not told to serve God.
And boy does it show!
What we have now is a generation of soft, winey, emasculated men, physically alive, spiritually neutered. Addicted to porn, praise, and PlayStations. Afraid of discomfort, allergic to authority, and ignorant of their design. They are the natural product of a culture that mocks fatherhood, punishes masculinity, and rewards cowardice.
The Reality of Legacy
Most men don’t build anything. They spend 40 years building another man’s empire while losing their own house. They give their best hours to a company that will replace them the moment they get sick, and they give their worst hours to the children they hardly know. They try to lead wives who have been trained since childhood to hate submission, to fight headship, and to confuse rebellion with strength.
And when they finally look up, they have nothing. No legacy. No foundation. No future. Just bills, regrets, and broken dreams. I’ve seen this. I’ve lived this. And I’ve declared war on it!
I am not here to participate in that cycle. I am not here to be another brick in Babylon’s wall. I am here to build a house that lasts. A man is not measured by his net worth. He is not remembered for his career or his cars or his hobbies. He is measured by what he builds, by who he leads, by the faith he passes down.
A man is a patriarch – or he is a pathetic pawn.
My Beginning: Not a Blank Slate, but a Battlefield
I was born with Lupus. Not a scratch, not a limp, not a mild inconvenience. An incurable, lifelong affliction that brings daily pain and exhaustion. Every step costs something. Every action is a choice. Every ounce of effort put forth costs me physically.
But God in His sovereignty gave me this for a reason. I make a conscious effort every hour of every day to not complain, to not dwell on the pain or discomfort, to not use this as an excuse for abdication of my responsibilities, and to not allow this burden to effect the spirit of my household.
Fifteen years ago, I stopped taking the medications that numbed the pain. I chose to live in clarity and agony rather than comfort and fog. Because clarity is required for legacy. And pain is the price of purpose. While others complain about minor inconveniences, I bleed for a future they don’t even believe in. And that’s just the physical side.
I started with no inheritance. No generational wealth. No functioning family structure. No roadmap. And no support from my family. What I inherited was a pile of ashes and a name in need of redemption. But you don’t get to choose your starting line. You only get to choose whether you run or quit.
The Modern Wife Problem
I would like to say clearly and without apology: less than 1% of females in the Western world today qualify as even a basic, entry-level wife. Not because they are stupid. Not because they are evil. But because they have been deliberately trained, since birth, to be everything but a wife, by their parents, the government and society as a whole.
They are taught to pursue degrees, not diapers. Careers, not covenant. Freedom, not faithfulness. The culture teaches them to be sexually liberated but spiritually barren. Loud, proud, and perpetually offended. Worshiped for existing, enraged when corrected, and allergic to accountability. They are taught to crave attention to the point it is sinful.
And the average man, even a good man, will spend the best years of his life begging and battling just to get what his great-grandfather expected and received without question: a wife who serves, submits, and builds with him. A wife who was trained by her parents to be a wife.
He sacrifices immense time, energy, and money just to lay the foundation that should have been there already. I speak from experience. Most of my adult life has been spent not only learning what I must be as a man and a husband, but then training my wives to be what their parents failed to make them. I had to teach them how to be what Scripture commands, not just by words, but by example, by demand, and by daily discipline.
And even then, the battle is constant and ever-present. Not because they are unwilling, but because they were untrained. And the world constantly reinforces the lie that their feelings are more sacred than their function. That they deserve constant attention and praise for doing far less than the bare minimum, and they are equal to men.
My Purpose: The Restoration of the Biblical Household
My purpose is to rebuild the ancient household. Not in theory. Not in fantasy. But in raw, lived-out, flesh-and-blood reality. I know with full conviction and clarity that God has called me to be a patriarch, not a figurehead, not a mascot, not a preacher, but a builder of the old ways. A restorer of ruins.
He has called me to live, visibly and unapologetically, the reality of Biblical family order. Including polygyny. Yes, I said it: multiple wives. Many children. A fruitful house. A defiant example. This is not about lust. This is not about indulgence. This is about restoration. About rebuilding what sin, feminism, church cowardice, and governmental overreach have destroyed.
I am called to take responsibility for more than myself. To cover, train, and lead women who desire to serve something greater than themselves. Women who were discarded, wounded, or simply never given the chance to thrive in their God-ordained roles. Women who are willing to be transformed, not by flattery, but by fire.
I do not ask them to follow me because I am perfect. I ask them to follow me because I will not stop. Because I will not compromise. Because I will die building, and they will never have to wonder where their man stands.
Ministry Without a Microphone
I never wanted attention. I still don’t. I do not want fame. I do not want followers. I do not want applause. I sincerely want to be left alone to build in seclusion. But I have come to realize that my house is my ministry. Not social media, sermons, or speaking engagements. My wives, my children, my home, my legacy, and the kingdom I leave my children is my purpose..
That is the pulpit from which I preach. That is the testimony that will outlive me. That is where the Kingdom is built. The world is watching. Other men are watching. Other women are watching. And most importantly, my sons and daughters are watching.
They will know what a man is, what a wife is, what sacrifice looks like, and what legacy demands. They will not inherit confusion. They will inherit clarity, purpose and generational wealth.
The Cost
I know first hand the cost of this calling. I am mocked, lied about, and vilified by feminists and religious cowards alike. I am attacked by those who claim to follow God and those who follow only themselves. I live in constant sacrifice, constant rejection, and constant tension from the outside world and often even my own wives as they struggle with learning God’s intended role for their lives in stark contrast to what the world teaches.
But I will also live in constant purpose. I live as a man who knows what he is building. I will die as a man who gave everything to give his descendants a starting point.
And that is enough, in fact it’s more than I deserve.
The Future: A House, A Name, A Nation
The legacy I build will not be measured in cash. It will be measured in names. In blood. In fruit. In sons who lead and daughters who build. In many wives who teach the next generation what their mothers were never taught. In land, in households, in unity and dominion.
I am not building a mansion. I am building a house that hell cannot burn.I am not pursuing early retirement. I am pursuing early resurrection. I will be a patriarch to my family, a stone in the foundation of the Kingdom, and a thorn in the side of every coward who dares call compromise “compassion.”
And when my work is done, they will not say I lived comfortably. They will say I lived convicted. They will say I lived with purpose.
Soli Deo Gloria
Let God’s Great Order be Restored no matter the cost!
