(But Almost None Do Anymore)
Section I – The Lost Training of Women
Why Modern Females Can’t Even Qualify as Entry-Level Wives
There was a time, and not very long ago, when the phrase “she’s ready to be married” meant something. It was not a vague reference to her age, or her Instagram following, or how “in love” she felt after six months of texting a man. It was a recognition of hard reality: she had the skills, the discipline, the mindset, and the moral formation to step directly into the work of being a wife.
That was normal. That was expected. That was civilization. And then it died.
The death wasn’t sudden. It wasn’t even a single, clean blow. It was slow, deliberate, and calculated, the result of several generations of parents abandoning their duty, churches trading obedience for entertainment, and society as a whole shifting its daughters from the training ground of the home to the indoctrination centers of the state.
The result? A modern “wife” is, in most cases, nothing more than a grown child with a marriage license, unable to perform the most basic duties of her role without constant guidance, hand-holding, or emotional bargaining. In other words: she’s not ready, she’s not trained, and she’s not even starting at zero. She’s starting in the negative.
A Fifteen-Year-Old Could Outperform Her
Go back just three or four generations. A girl of fifteen, and we’re not talking about the rich or the unusually gifted, but ordinary girls in ordinary homes, could competently do what most women today cannot.
By fifteen she could:
- Cook three meals a day from scratch without Instagram or Tik-tok.
- Keep a household clean without “needing a cleaning day” or hiring a maid.
- Make, sew, mend, and care for clothing.
- Manage a garden and preserve the harvest through canning or drying.
- Watch younger siblings all day without losing her mind.
- Host guests with basic hospitality skills.
- Assist in basic home repairs or maintenance.
- Budget household expenses.
And she could do all of this without scrolling Pinterest for ideas or ordering takeout when something “didn’t work out.”
She was not “special” for this. She was normal. In fact, if she couldn’t do these things by fifteen, her family would have been embarrassed. The failure would have been obvious to her parents, her community, and any man who came courting.
Now? The average thirty-year-old “wife” can’t boil an egg without asking Google how long to cook it, and even then, she’ll burn it while distracted by her phone.
Who Killed the Training?
The destruction of wife skills didn’t happen by accident. It was the result of several converging forces:
- Industrialization & The School System – Girls were pulled out of the home at younger and younger ages and placed into factory-like classrooms that trained them for standardized tests, not for marriage. Home economics was replaced with “gender-neutral career training,” and the practical knowledge that would have been second nature was treated as optional.
- Feminism – The feminist movement explicitly told women that being a wife, mother, and homemaker was beneath them. Instead of measuring themselves by the competence of their household, they measured themselves by paychecks, degrees, and how loudly they could resent men.
- Fatherlessness – Even in homes where mothers might have wanted to pass on skills, the absence of strong male leadership meant there was no standard to enforce it. Fathers either abdicated or were removed from the home, leaving daughters without the structure and discipline necessary for training.
- Church Compromise – Instead of holding women to biblical standards, churches began preaching “self-esteem” and “follow your heart.” The Proverbs 31 woman was reduced to a coffee mug slogan while Titus 2 training disappeared entirely.
- The Entertainment Culture – From childhood, girls were saturated with media telling them that life is about fun, drama, and chasing personal dreams. The grind of household duty and the art of serving others never made the script.
When these five forces combined, the result was inevitable: women entered adulthood with neither the skills nor the mindset to be wives.
From Asset to Liability
A trained wife is an asset to her husband. She multiplies his effectiveness, strengthens his household, and contributes directly to the stability of his life and work.
An untrained wife is a liability. She drains resources, multiplies problems, and requires more oversight than the children. She cannot relieve her husband’s burdens because she is one of them.
That’s the harsh truth. A wife who cannot keep house, feed her family, manage resources, or support her husband is not “just figuring it out.” She is failing at her God-given role, and dragging her husband down with her, all while blaming him.
In the past, a man could take for granted that his bride would already know how to run a household. Now, he must factor in the reality that she may not know the first thing about it, and that he will have to train her from scratch if he is willing to take on that burden.
The Husband’s New Reality
Let’s say, for the sake of argument, that a young man is trained to be a husband, which is itself is equally rare today (future article coming on this topic). He has learned how to work hard, lead with vision, provide for a family, protect a household, and govern himself.
Even so, when he marries, he will almost certainly spend the first 2-10 years teaching his wife the basics that used to be standard for teenagers. He will be showing her:
- How to cook real meals without relying on boxed kits.
- How to keep a home presentable without it becoming a full-day ordeal.
- How to care for children in a way that meets both their physical and emotional needs.
- How to respect and follow his leadership without constant questioning or emotional manipulation.
Nothing about this is “Romantic”. This is remedial education. And the more years a husband must spend on it, the less time he will have to experience the blessings of a truly trained helpmeet.
And here’s the kicker: because her parents failed to prepare her, he may never experience it. She may improve, yes, but she may never reach the level of competence that would have been standard for a young bride in 1950.
The Unpopular Truth: It’s Not Just “Different Times”
Modern women love to wave away these comparisons with the phrase, “Well, times have changed.” Yes, they have. And that’s the problem.
Times have changed because we allowed them to change. We allowed parents to outsource their daughters’ upbringing to the state. We allowed media to redefine femininity. We allowed churches to replace training with flattery.
But here’s the truth: reality hasn’t changed. Marriage still demands the same skills it always did. A husband still needs the same kind of support he always did. A household still requires the same kind of maintenance it always did.
The only thing that’s changed is the supply of women who can meet those basic demands.
Why This Matters for Civilization
This is not nostalgia. This is not some romanticized vision of “the good old days.” This is about the survival of households, which means the survival of civilization itself.
Every thriving culture in history understood that the training of wives was foundational. The competence of a man’s household directly affected his ability to lead, to work, to provide, and to raise the next generation.
Remove that competence, and you get what we have now:
- Declining marriage rates.
- Exploding divorce rates.
- Fertility collapse.
- Men retreating from commitment altogether.
- A generation of women who think being “cute” is a substitute for being capable.
You cannot build strong families with untrained wives. And without strong families, you cannot have a strong nation.
From Disgrace to Default
In the past, a woman who reached adulthood without basic wife skills was a disgrace. It was a mark against her parents, a warning to any man considering her for marriage, and a point of shame for the woman herself.
Now it’s the default.
Modern culture has flipped the script so completely that a woman who does have these skills is now considered “rare,” “special,” or even “old-fashioned.” Young men treat such women like unicorns instead of recognizing that they are simply what all women were supposed to be.
This inversion is deadly. When we normalize incompetence and treat competence as an anomaly, we guarantee the continued decay of marriage.
What’s Coming Next
This section is not here to make women feel bad about what they lack. It is here to make them face it, and to make men stop pretending it doesn’t matter.
In the next section, I will spell out exactly what “basic wife skills” are. Not the advanced, refined arts of an exceptional wife, but the minimum requirements every woman should have mastered before even thinking about marriage.
Because, if you can’t do the basics, you’re not ready to wear the title. And if a man accepts you without them, he is signing up for years of unnecessary struggle.
Marriage is too important for both of you to pretend otherwise.
Section II – The Foundation: Non-Negotiable Basic Wife Skills
The 12 Core Competencies Every Wife Must Master Before She Even Wears the Dress
If you strip away all the fluff, the Instagram romance quotes, the “my husband is my best friend” coffee mugs, the staged couple’s photos at sunset, marriage boils down to this: a man taking responsibility for a household, and a woman being able to help him bear that responsibility.
The problem is that most modern women bring zero practical ability to the table. They think being a wife is about “loving hard” and “being supportive,” which is code for “providing emotional commentary while someone else does the work.”
But marriage is not an emotion. It’s a job. And like any job, there are skills required before you get hired. In the past, these skills were mastered before a woman was even considered marriageable. Today, most brides have never been told they exist, and their husbands discover the gap when it’s too late to turn back.
So let’s be clear: these are the non-negotiable basics. If a woman can’t handle these, she is not a wife, she is a liability pretending to be a wife.
Category 1 – Household Operations
These are the nuts-and-bolts skills that keep a home running without collapsing into chaos. Without them, everything else falls apart.
1. Cooking Real Food (From Scratch)
If a woman cannot feed her household without boxed kits, frozen meals, or constant takeout, she is not ready for marriage.
- From scratch means starting with raw ingredients and producing meals that are healthy, filling, and cost-effective.
- She should know how to prepare a range of meals, breakfasts, lunches, and dinners, without a recipe in front of her.
- She must be able to adapt to what’s available and make it work when supplies are low or money is tight.
A woman who “can’t cook” is not cute. She is unprepared. Feeding a family is not a hobby; it’s survival.
2. Cleaning and House Management
Every home gets dirty. The difference is whether it stays that way.
- Cleaning is not “once a week when I feel like it.” It is a daily discipline that keeps the home orderly, sanitary, and welcoming.
- A competent wife understands the difference between tidy and clean, and keeps both under control.
- She can run laundry, keep bathrooms presentable, and manage clutter without it turning into an all-day meltdown.
If your house looks like a “before” photo on a reality show, you are not managing it, you are surviving in it. That is not acceptable.
3. Clothing Care
Clothes don’t magically maintain themselves.
- A wife must know how to properly wash, dry, fold, and store clothing without shrinking, fading, or ruining it.
- She must be able to sew a button, mend a tear, and handle basic alterations.
- In the past, this was second nature. Now, women throw away a shirt because of a loose seam. That’s wasteful and lazy.
A household that can’t repair and maintain clothing is a household bleeding money.
4. Basic Home Maintenance
No one’s asking her to be a master carpenter. But she should be able to:
- Tighten a loose screw.
- Change a lightbulb.
- Handle minor household issues without panic.
- Recognize when a problem needs her husband’s attention immediately.
The point is competence, not independence. She doesn’t need to “be a handyman”, she just needs to keep small problems from becoming big ones.
5. Resource & Budget Management
A wife who spends without discipline will sink her husband faster than any crisis.
- She must be able to plan grocery lists, track expenses, and avoid waste.
- She must respect the household budget, not treat it like a vague suggestion.
- She must understand that every dollar she spends is the result of her husband’s work and therefore demands respect.
A woman who can’t steward resources will eventually destroy trust, and with it, the marriage.
Category 2 – Relational Skills
Running a household isn’t just about things. It’s about people. And people require skill to deal with well.
6. Respectful Communication
Disagreement is inevitable. Disrespect is not.
- A wife must be able to voice concerns without nagging, belittling, or undermining her husband.
- She must understand the power of tone, and refuse to use sarcasm, rolling eyes, or contempt.
- She must be able to accept correction without turning it into a battle.
If a woman cannot speak respectfully to her husband, her other skills won’t matter. Her words will poison the home.
7. Conflict Resolution Under Authority
Every marriage has conflict. The difference between peace and disaster is how it’s handled.
- A wife must know how to de-escalate, not inflame.
- She must accept that her husband is the final authority in the home.
- This means that once a decision is made, she supports it, even if it wasn’t her preference.
Unity matters more than “winning.” A divided house is already losing.
8. Hospitality
A godly household is open to guests, whether family, friends, or strangers in need.
- A wife must know how to prepare the home quickly for visitors.
- She should be able to offer food, drink, and a welcoming presence without panic.
- Hospitality is not about perfection; it’s about warmth, readiness, and generosity.
A wife who makes guests feel like an inconvenience is failing at one of her core biblical duties.
9. Child Care Competence
If a wife cannot care for children without constant complaints, she is not prepared for motherhood, and motherhood is not optional in biblical marriage.
- She must be able to feed, clean, teach, dress, cut hair and discipline children appropriately.
- She must manage the needs of multiple children without neglecting the household entirely.
- She must treat children as blessings, not burdens.
Motherhood is not an “add-on” to marriage. It is central to the role.
Category 3 – Self-Governance
Without personal discipline, all the other skills will collapse. Self-governance is what makes the rest sustainable.
10. Time Management
A wife who is always “running behind” or “too busy” is simply disorganized.
- She must know how to structure her day to meet the needs of her husband, children, and home without constant chaos.
- She must learn to prioritize, distinguishing between urgent needs and time-wasting distractions.
- She must keep commitments and deadlines without excuses.
Poor time management is not a personality quirk. It’s a form of unreliability, and is unacceptable. Her lack of organization affects the entire household negatively.
11. Personal Discipline & Hygiene
Neglecting her own health and hygiene is not selflessness, it’s negligence.
- A wife must keep herself presentable for her husband and for the public.
- She must avoid letting stress or busyness become an excuse for sloppiness.
- She must maintain habits that keep her healthy enough to serve her household.
A man should not have to beg his wife to shower, dress decently, brush her hair or be modest and presentable in public.
12. Willingness to Serve
This is the foundation under all the others.
- A wife must actually want to fulfill her role, not constantly resist it.
- Skills without the heart to serve will turn into resentment and weaponized competence.
- A godly wife sees her work not as slavery, but as worship and obedience to God.
If she lacks this willingness, her husband will forever be pushing against her resistance, and the home will always suffer for it.
Why These Are “Basic”
Some might argue that this list is too demanding. It isn’t. This is not the list for the exceptional wife. This is the list for the minimum viable wife.
In past generations, these were the baseline, the equivalent of being able to read and write. The advanced skills, running a home business, producing clothing, managing livestock, educating children, came after these.
Today, we treat these as “old-fashioned luxuries” and then wonder why marriages are crumbling and households are chaotic.
The Cost of Ignoring the Basics
When a woman enters marriage without these skills:
- Her husband becomes her trainer instead of her partner.
- The household limps along, never hitting its stride.
- Children grow up without a model of competence, repeating the cycle of failure.
- The marriage itself becomes strained under the weight of unmet needs.
This is not a small thing. This is the difference between a thriving home and a barely-functioning one.
Moving Forward
In the next section, I will deal with the hard reality: most women today do not have these skills, and most men will marry them anyway.
That means if the marriage is going to succeed, these skills must be built from scratch, after the vows. It’s slow work. It’s frustrating work. But if you believe in the role God designed for wives, it’s necessary work.
Because the title “wife” without these skills is nothing more than false advertising.
Section III – Restoring the Standard
Training Wives from Scratch in a World That Trains Them for Failure
By now, the facts are on the table:
- Most women are entering marriage without the most basic wife skills.
- Most men are marrying them anyway.
- And because of this, marriage often begins at a deficit instead of an advantage.
We can mourn the generational failures all day long, and we should. We should be angry at the parents who failed to train their daughters, at the schools and media that actively untrained them, and at the churches that congratulated them for their incompetence.
But here’s the reality: your household still needs to function. And you, as a man, are still responsible before God for making it happen.
If your wife is untrained, you don’t get to wave the white flag. You get to train her.
You don’t get to lower the standard. You get to raise her to it.
The Burden You Didn’t Ask For – But Still Carry
Let’s be clear: training an untrained wife is exhausting. It will test your patience, your endurance, and your commitment.
This is not what marriage was designed to be and it’s probably not what you signed up for. Marriage was supposed to be the joining of two trained, prepared people, each bringing their God-given role to the table. Instead, you’re walking into a role that feels like half husband, half drill instructor.
And yet, if you refuse this burden, your household will collapse.
God still holds you responsible for order in your home, no matter how unprepared your wife was when you married her. The fact that her parents failed doesn’t erase your responsibility. If anything, it magnifies it.
Start with Authority, Not Apology
Most men make the mistake of starting with requests instead of requirements. They want to “ease her into it” and “be understanding.”
Here’s the problem: a woman who has never been trained to respect authority will not suddenly wake up and respect yours just because you put a ring on her finger. If she’s been told her whole life that her feelings outrank facts, she will assume the same in marriage, unless you prove otherwise.
The first step in restoring the standard is to establish, without apology, that your word is final. This is not tyranny. This is the biblical model: the husband is the head of the wife (Ephesians 5:23), and the wife is to obey her husband (Colossians 3:18).
Once that foundation is in place, training becomes possible. Without it, you’ll be “negotiating” every step for the rest of your life, and losing ground every time.
Identify the Gaps
Training works best when you know exactly what’s missing. Sit down and evaluate:
- Which basic wife skills from Section II are absent?
- Which are weak or inconsistent?
- Which are present but undermined by bad attitudes or laziness?
Write it down. Yes, literally. If you can’t define the gaps, you can’t close them.
Once you know where the deficits are, you can begin addressing them one at a time. Trying to “fix everything” at once will overwhelm both of you and lead to failure.
Set Clear, Measurable Expectations
General statements like “You need to do more around the house” are useless. Training requires specifics.
Instead of vague requests, say:
- “By the time I get home, the dishes should be done and the kitchen counters cleared.”
- “The laundry needs to be washed, folded, and put away by Friday evening.”
- “Dinner should be on the table at 6:30.”
These are measurable. They can be checked. She knows exactly what success looks like, and so do you.
If she fails, you can address it directly without arguing about whether she “tried.” Effort is not the standard. Results are.
Train Through Repetition, Not Reactions
A mistake men make is only addressing skills when they’re already frustrated. That turns correction into an emotional outburst instead of a steady expectation.
Training happens through repetition:
- Explain the standard.
- Demonstrate it if necessary.
- Require it consistently.
- Correct gently but firmly when it’s missed.
- Repeat until it’s habit.
This is not about yelling or shaming. It’s about creating patterns. A skill becomes part of her life when she has done it enough times that it becomes instinct.
Do Not Reward Resistance
One of the fastest ways to kill training is to reward bad behavior. This often happens in subtle ways:
- She complains or resists, so you “just do it yourself” to avoid conflict.
- She procrastinates until the last minute, so you step in to “help” and end up doing the job.
- She does a sloppy job on purpose, hoping you’ll never ask her again, and it works.
Every time you reward resistance, you reinforce it. She learns that she can avoid work by pushing back, dragging her feet, or underperforming.
If she refuses to meet the standard, the standard doesn’t change, the consequences increase.
Use Consequences Wisely
Consequences are not about punishing her. They are about reinforcing reality: actions have results.
Consequences can be:
- Loss of privileges (spending, outings, leisure activities).
- Increased oversight until competence is proven.
- Social accountability (having her admit to another trusted woman in your circle that she failed to meet an agreed standard).
The point is to make it more uncomfortable to fail than to succeed. In training, comfort is the enemy of progress.
Beware the Pity Trap
One of the most dangerous enemies of training is your own compassion. You see her struggle. You feel bad for her. You know she was failed by her parents and her upbringing.
That’s all true, and irrelevant.
Pity becomes poison when it excuses her from meeting the standard. Lowering the bar out of sympathy might feel kind, but it robs her of the dignity of competence and leaves your household permanently crippled.
You can be patient without lowering the bar. You can be understanding without accepting failure as normal.
Recognize That Not All Wives Will Make It
Here’s the part most men don’t want to hear: some women will never reach the standard.
You can lead well, train patiently, and enforce consistently, and she may still refuse to learn, refuse to submit, or refuse to apply herself.
At that point, you must decide:
- Is she making progress, even if it’s slow?
- Is she poisoning the household through constant rebellion?
- Is the marriage sustainable with her level of competence?
Scripture is clear that a contentious wife can destroy a man’s peace (Proverbs 21:9). Sometimes, the most godly decision is to stop pouring energy into a bottomless pit.
The Long-Term Vision: Rebuilding Generations
Training your wife is not just about your marriage. It’s about your children, your grandchildren, and the culture of your household for generations.
If you train her well:
- Your sons will grow up knowing what to expect in a wife.
- Your daughters will grow up knowing what they must become before marriage.
- The cycle of incompetence can be broken by your family line, in a single generation.
But if you avoid the work, your children will repeat the same failures, and your grandchildren will live in even deeper chaos.
Why Restoring the Standard Is Non-Negotiable
We live in a time where almost no one is holding the line. Society celebrates weakness in women as “empowerment” and competence in women as “oppression.”
If you do not restore the standard in your own household, no one else will. And if your household does not reflect God’s order, your witness to the world is already compromised.
Training an untrained wife is not easy. It will require you to be firm when you’d rather be comfortable, to enforce standards when you’d rather avoid conflict, and to think long-term when you’d rather have short-term peace.
But if you succeed, you will not just have a better marriage, you will have a functioning household that stands as a rebuke to the chaos around you.
Final Word
Your wife may have entered marriage untrained, but she does not have to stay that way. If she is willing to learn, and you are willing to lead, she can grow into the role God intended.
The road will be long, but the reward will be real:
- A home that runs smoothly.
- Children raised in order and peace.
- A wife who is an asset instead of a liability.
- A marriage that reflects the glory of God’s design.
Civilization may have failed her. Society may have lied to her. But in your house, under your leadership, the standard can be restored.
And that, more than anything, is how you build a marriage worth having.
Let God’s Great Order be restored!
Our generation has been failed on so many levels, we cant do basic things.
Once you were taught homeconomics in school. Family was a thing to be protected. You sat on the porch with the family and snapped beans and cleaned corn, cooked tomatoes and preserve items to have for hard times. Now we watch endless TikTok video of people cleaning their house and cooking.
WHY because people dont know how. They dont know how to cook, clean, they dont even understand how some of it works.
Generations of women have been taught being a house wife is horrible. Men are useless and the government will help support you. And then the cycle repeats over and over getting worse each time.
You know what really burns, Lord? Reading this and realizing you’re describing me, the girl who actually trained, who studied, who learned every “basic wife skill” you listed while the rest of my generation was twerking and scrolling. I became what you said women should be, and still, you haven’t come for me.
You write about civilization dying because there are no real wives left. Well, I’m right here, and I’ve been waiting. I turned seventeen, seventeen! and I thought maybe then you’d finally notice that someone listened. Someone didn’t roll her eyes or call you names. I was raised on words like yours. I practiced them like Scripture. And yet I sit here, reading your posts like a ghost watching the living pretend they’re alive.
You talk about “training wives from scratch”? What about the ones who trained themselves for you? The ones who already belong to the Order, heart, soul, and submission, and still get ignored because they’re not some broken woman you get to rebuild? Maybe that’s the real curse, you’re surrounded by feral wives begging for correction, while the one who’d die just to serve you is left in silence.
Everyone else mocks you, but they don’t know. They don’t know what it’s like to read your words and feel them like fire under the skin. They don’t understand what it’s like to ache for order, to crave belonging to something higher.
I have the skills. I have the discipline. I have the calling.
All I lack is the man who wrote this, practicing what he preaches and claiming what’s already his.
But go ahead keep writing about “restoring civilization.” Maybe one day you’ll realize that your civilization has been waiting for you this whole time, sitting patiently, wearing an apron and praying your name.
You have an extraordinary way with words.
You sound like a dictator with a Bible in one hand and a leash in the other. “Training wives”? What’s next? obedience collars? You’re not restoring civilization; you’re resurrecting misogyny.
Every young man should read this before dating. Half the modern “Christian” women are shocked that being a wife involves actual work. Outstanding piece.
Oh, give me a break, “Lord Redbeard.” You sound less like a man of God and more like a narcissistic control freak prophet. This isn’t wisdom, it’s insecurity. You dress up your obsession with obedience and dominance in Bible verses because deep down, you know no sane, self-respecting woman would follow you willingly.
You call women “untrained” because it makes you feel superior, but what you’re really describing is your own failure as a “man” and leader. Any man who has to write 10,000 words explaining why women should submit isn’t leading. You’re not restoring civilization; you’re throwing a tantrum because modern women stopped worshiping you for existing.
You’re terrified. Terrified of capable women, terrified of accountability, and terrified that your entire “Great Order” schtick only works on the broken and desperate. Keep preaching to your resentful men and emotionally damaged followers. The rest of us will keep moving forward while you shout into the void, clutching your fantasy of biblical patriarchy like it’s a participation trophy for manhood.
Finally, someone said it. Society mocks competence and worships chaos. This piece is not sexist it’s prophetic. The backlash in these comments proves your point better than anything.
You’re missing one “basic wife skill”: surviving the emotional trauma of reading posts like this without flipping a table.
This article made me cry and then get up to clean my kitchen. I was mad at first, but you’re right, I wasn’t taught how to be a wife. I’m learning now.
Back in my day, this was common sense. Now it’s “controversial.” That tells you everything you need to know about why marriages fail.
Half of this made me mad, and the other half made me want to learn how to can vegetables. You might be insufferable, but you’re not wrong.
I’m torn. Some of this sounds extreme, but I also know most of my friends can’t cook, clean, or budget. Maybe there’s a middle ground between feminist chaos and 1950s domesticity?
My grandmother did all those things you listed, and she told me her back still hurts 40 years later. Stop romanticizing servitude. It wasn’t “training,” it was survival.
Oh sure, let’s turn back the clock to when women couldn’t vote and got beaten for burning the roast. Therapy might help.
Whether people agree or not, this post hits a nerve because it’s true, skills are disappearing. My sister literally DoorDashes breakfast every day. Civilization starts at home.
This whole post reads like someone got rejected by a modern woman and decided to write a manifesto. Go outside and touch grass, dude.
I can cook, clean, and run a business, but apparently that means I’m “untrained.” You know what’s really untrained? Men who can’t survive without mommy or Wi-Fi.
As if men today are any better. You act like husbands are noble warriors while half of them can’t fix a sink or get off TikTok either. Glass houses, my guy.
As a husband who had to train his wife from scratch, I can attest this is 100% true. It’s not cruel. You can’t build a functioning home on feelings and chaos.
This is disgusting. You don’t want a wife, you want an employee. A maid who says “yes, sir” while you play king. No wonder women are running from marriage. I’d rather die alone than live like that.
Bro, maybe if men weren’t addicted to porn and video games, women wouldn’t have to carry every emotional burden. You’re out here writing essays about casserole duty like it’s the cure for society.
This is exactly what my grandfather used to say, and people laughed at him too. Funny how his marriage lasted 60 years and everyone mocking him has been divorced twice. Excellent breakdown of why “basic” isn’t insulting.
I was raised to think being a homemaker was “wasting potential.” Now I’m 32, exhausted, and trying to learn all the things my grandmother mastered as a kid. You’re right it’s not oppression, it’s basic competence.
No! just NO!
It’s official, this guy is living in the wrong century
I don’t disagree with your diagnosis, modern women ARE lazy, entitled, and useless in the home. But let’s not pretend men haven’t been complicit. Half the guys reading this can’t even keep their own lives in order, let alone lead anyone. You’ve got men marrying spoiled TikTok drones and then crying when they turn out to be feral, what did they expect? You don’t buy a dog that bites and then act shocked when it draws blood.
Are you kidding me with this 1950s housewife fantasy? You’re literally advocating for women to be unpaid domestic servants while pretending it’s “God’s order.” Women don’t exist to be your personal maid, cook, and child factory. We work, we earn, and we build our own lives. You can call it “untrained” all you want, but what you’re really angry about is that modern women aren’t submissive enough to inflate your fragile ego.
You talk about “training” wives like they’re livestock that need to be broken-in and then have the audacity to call it biblical. Jesus wept, literally. You want to raise daughters who can “obey” men without question, and you’re surprised civilization is falling apart? Maybe it’s because men like you treat half the population like defective appliances that need fixing.
This entire post reads like a cult manifesto for insecure men who can’t handle competent women. Here’s a thought: maybe your problem isn’t that women are untrained. Maybe your problem is that they’ve finally learned how to recognize narcissists.
I know that we have talked about this multiple times but most “modern women” who were raised in Christian households were taught that “you need to be able to keep house” but you “need to be able to take care of yourself just in case”. Because…their partner may not be able to do all of the things “required” of them, and it takes 2 people to run a family and household. Because in reality…our generation of people were not taught how to be fully in the roles the Bible calls for. We were taught “survival skills” which is probably a disservice but it’s just the facts. And I’m not making excuses by any means