I. The Great Illusion: Modern Romance and Its Poisoned Fruit
We live in a generation drunk on the wine of emotional fantasy, where love is painted in glitter and dreams rather than blood and covenant. The modern conception of love and romance; marketed through Disney movies, pop songs, and TikTok influencers, has turned marriage into a fleeting spark of passion rather than a solemn bond of dominion, order, and legacy. The modern mind believes that to “fall in love” is to be swept away in feelings, and when those feelings change, love is assumed to have died. Such an idea is not merely naïve; it is destructive.
The 21st-century romance myth revolves around personal happiness and instant gratification. A 2023 Pew Research survey revealed that 88% of Americans believe love is the most important reason to get married, but only 24% believe it’s important for couples to have shared religious beliefs. This shows the collapse of covenantal thinking. In this model, the individual’s temporary feeling of “being in love” is enthroned, and God’s order is discarded.
Contrast this with the Biblical understanding: marriage is not founded upon feelings but upon vows, law, and covenantal duty. Feelings can come and go like waves, but covenant remains anchored to the rock of God’s Word.
Hollywood teaches that love is when someone “completes you.” God teaches that love is when a man lays down his life for his bride, sanctifies her with the Word (Ephesians 5:25-27), and builds a multigenerational household in submission to Christ. The fairy tale ends with a wedding. The Kingdom story begins with one.
The Feminine Fantasy and Masculine Sloth
The romantic fairy tale particularly ensnares women. From a young age, girls are fed stories where the princess is passive, waiting for a perfect man to find her, rescue her, and romance her forever. The man is always rich, handsome, and emotionally sensitive. The girl is always beautiful, pampered, and adored. There is no work, no conflict, and no suffering in this world, only happily ever after.
This corrupts women to expect effortless perfection. The romantic notion becomes a drug, and when reality sets in; when diapers must be changed, when money is tight, when her husband is firm rather than soft, she feels “unloved.” In reality, she was never taught what love truly is.
Men, too, are affected, but in a different way. Instead of building homes, taming wild lands, and forging legacies, they are lulled into passive entertainment, pornographic fantasy, or immature pursuits. They believe that winning a woman is about charm and convenience, not headship and labor. This is why many Christian men today delay marriage into their thirties, remaining unready to take dominion and lead a household.
Historical Note: The Rise of Romanticism
The notion of romantic love as the foundation of marriage is a relatively modern idea. Prior to the Enlightenment and Romantic era (18th–19th centuries), marriage in Christian Europe was understood as a social, economic, and spiritual covenant. Love was expected to grow through duty, shared purpose, and the sanctifying work of the Spirit. In medieval Christendom, the concept of “courtly love” emerged in aristocratic poetry, where knights idealized and idolized unattainable women. This paganized the concept of love, severing it from God’s law.
C.S. Lewis noted in The Four Loves that romantic love, when exalted above all else, becomes a god; and like all false gods, it devours its worshipers.
II. What Is Biblical Love? A Matter of Covenant and Command
Biblical Love Is Obedient
The modern mind hears “love” and thinks “emotion.” The Biblical mind hears “love” and thinks “obedience.”
“For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.” —1 John 5:3
True love is covenantal, not emotional. It is defined by action and grounded in God’s law. Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church, not by pampering her emotions, but by leading, providing, sanctifying, and laying down his life. Wives are likewise commanded to love their husbands by reverent obedience and faithful service (Titus 2:4–5). Love, then, is not how we feel but how we act, especially when we do not feel.
Jesus did not die on the cross because it felt good. He died because He loved the Church. Love bleeds. Love sacrifices. Love obeys.
Love as Headship and Submission
In Ephesians 5:22–33, we are given the divine pattern of love:
- The husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church.
- The wife is to submit to her husband as the Church submits to Christ.
- The husband is to love his wife as Christ loves the Church.
This is not equality. This is hierarchy, and order. Biblical love is not a democracy of feelings but a monarchy of duty. The husband rules in love, and the wife follows in joy.
This kind of love cannot be replicated in the feminist model, where both parties demand their rights and nobody yields. It thrives only in homes where God’s order is kept and men embrace masculinity with courage.
The Covenant Reality of Marriage
A Biblical marriage is not just a private commitment; it is a covenant, a binding agreement before God, sealed by vows, maintained by law, and guarded by consequences. This is why Malachi 2:14 refers to a wife as a “companion of thy covenant.” Breaking covenant is treachery before the Lord.
When two become one flesh, they are not joining in a momentary dance of emotion. They are joining in the sight of Heaven to build a house of dominion under God. Marriage is a holy institution (Malachi 2:11), a cornerstone of civilization, and a reflection of Christ and His bride.
This is why Biblical marriage cannot be based on feelings. Feelings are temporal. Covenant is eternal.
III. The Fruit of Covenant Love: Stability, Children, and Kingdom
A covenant marriage yields results. It does not flutter with the wind of passing affections. It builds, it multiplies, and it reigns!
Stability and Security
One of the most consistent findings in sociological studies is that stable marriages benefit not only the couple but also society at large. According to the Institute for Family Studies (2021), children raised in homes with married biological parents have significantly better outcomes in health, education, emotional stability, and social behavior. These benefits persist regardless of income level or ethnicity.
Why? Because God’s design works.
When a husband leads in love and a wife submits in reverence, a fortress is built. Children are nourished, protected, and trained in righteousness. Contrast this with the modern dating-marriage-divorce-remarry loop that dominates our culture. The fruit is chaos.
God’s covenant model brings peace. The modern fairytale brings war.
Children: The Real “Happily Ever After”
The world ends its love stories with a wedding. God begins them with one, and from there, He multiplies. Psalm 127:3–5 tells us:
“Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.”
In a Biblical marriage, children are not optional accessories, they are the reward, the legacy, the very purpose of the union. Yet the fairytale romance usually depicts children as interruptions to pleasure, not blessings of covenant. Hollywood love stories almost never show the sleepless nights, the morning devotions with squirming toddlers, or the financial sacrifices of raising a godly heritage. But Scripture does.
God’s pattern is generational. He does not merely save individuals; He establishes households, and through them, nations.
“And I will establish my covenant between me and thee and thy seed after thee in their generations for an everlasting covenant…” —Genesis 17:7
A home built on feelings may last a season. A home built on covenant becomes a dynasty.
The Romance of Responsibility
The greatest irony is this: the very thing that modern romantics are searching for, intimacy, trust, belonging, passion, is only truly found through responsibility.
A husband who takes dominion of his home, who lays down his life daily in work, prayer, and direction, becomes a man his wife can truly admire. A wife who honors her husband with joyful submission and diligent service becomes a fountain of grace, loyalty, and beauty. Together, they forge something far more glorious than mere feelings.
Biblical love is romance rooted in reality. It is not a firework; it is a hearth. It does not explode in a moment, then fade. It burns steadily for generations.
IV. The Fairy Tale Fails: When the Illusion Collapses
Feelings Fade, Duty Remains
It is no secret that modern marriages collapse at an alarming rate. In the U.S., nearly 70% of marriages end in divorce. Even among professing Christians, the numbers are not much better. Why?
Because most of these marriages were built not on covenant, but on emotional highs. They “fell in love,” and when the feelings faded, they assumed love was gone. But feelings are not reliable guides. They are changeable and prone to deception.
Scripture warns us:
“He that trusteth in his own heart is a fool: but whoso walketh wisely, he shall be delivered.” —Proverbs 28:26
Feelings come and go. Hormones rise and fall. But the Word of God remains. A marriage built on the shifting sands of emotion will fall. A marriage built on the rock of God’s order will stand.
Romance Turned Idolatry
Modern romance has become idolatry. It demands full devotion, total satisfaction, and unending emotional highs. But no human can bear the weight of that expectation. When men make idols of women, and women demand emotional fulfillment from men alone, they both set themselves up for crushing disappointment.
God alone satisfies. Marriage is not meant to replace Him, but to glorify Him.
When Christ is the center and the structure is in order, husband ruling, wife submitting, children obeying, then love flows freely. But when order is overturned, even the purest affection will rot.
Pornography, Infidelity, and Feminism
Our generation is being destroyed by lies:
- Pornography promises pleasure without covenant. It is a fantasy that poisons real love, ruins male ambition, and rewires the brain for false expectations.
- Feminism tells women they don’t need men, that submission is oppression, and that independence is the highest virtue. This breeds bitterness, rebellion, and loneliness.
- Infidelity becomes common because people believe love should always feel like the first spark. But that spark is not love, it is novelty.
Studies show that frequent pornography use is directly correlated with higher divorce rates, lower sexual satisfaction, and reduced emotional bonding. (Journal of Sex Research, 2016)
These are not just statistics. These are souls, homes, and children being destroyed by the lies of the enemy.
V. Love Reclaimed: The Path Back to Biblical Order
Courtship, Not Dating
The Bible knows nothing of recreational dating. The modern dating model is designed for failure, it trains people to practice divorce before marriage. Date, break up. Date, break up. Repeat. No wonder so few remain faithful in marriage.
Biblical courtship, however, is intentional. It involves family oversight, headship approval, and a view toward marriage. It protects the heart, guards purity, and aligns with the reality that marriage is covenant, not experimentation.
“Flee fornication…” —1 Corinthians 6:18
“Let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” —1 Corinthians 7:2
Young men must prepare to lead before they pursue. Young women must remain under headship, father or elder, until handed over in honor to a husband. This is not restrictive; it is protective.
Covenant Before Romance
The greatest romance is not found in feelings before marriage, but in faithfulness within it. The world teaches that sex, intimacy, and affection should come first, and commitment later. God reverses this:
- Covenant first.
- Intimacy second.
- Fruitfulness follows.
When a man and woman stand before God and vow lifelong covenant, they open the door to a deeper romance than Hollywood can imagine. Not based on infatuation, but on sacrifice, service, and shared mission.
A man who works hard, rules his home well, and honors God will find his wife’s respect and admiration growing over time. A woman who nurtures, builds, submits, and honors her husband will find her beauty increase in his eyes, year after year.
This is not a fairytale. It is better, andi it is real!
VI. Marriage as Mission: Building the Kingdom
Love That Builds, Not Consumes
The world portrays love as a fire that consumes. The Bible portrays it as a labor that builds.
“Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.” —Proverbs 24:3–4
Marriage is a mission; a joining of lives for the purpose of establishing God’s dominion. The couple becomes a household. The household becomes a beacon. The beacon becomes a city. This is how Christendom was built, and how it must be rebuilt.
The love between a man and woman is meant to reflect the love between Christ and His Church: strong, sacrificial, ordered, and fruitful. This is no dreamy sentiment. It is war—war against the flesh, against Satan, and against the world’s lies.
Romance becomes dangerous when detached from mission. But when embedded in mission, when the man builds and the woman helps, the love grows deeper, richer, and stronger with time.
Love in Polygyny: Multiple Wives, One Covenant Standard
The fairytale mindset rejects Biblical polygyny because it cannot comprehend covenantal love beyond emotional exclusivity. But Biblical love is not possessive, it is purposeful.
Abraham, Jacob, David, and others loved more than one wife. Did they fail? No. Their failings came not from plural marriage itself but from disorder and partiality when they disobeyed God’s instructions.
In a righteous, ordered polygynous home, the love is covenantal, not competitive. Each wife is under the covering and love of the husband, not because she is his emotional favorite, but because she is his covenant responsibility. And when the wives embrace their station in humility and duty, they too find deeper love, not the fleeting spark of romance, but the eternal light of God’s law.
This, too, contradicts modern notions. The world says, “I must be the only one you love.” God says, “Love them all rightly, rule them all justly, and sanctify them all in truth.”
Polygyny is not about quantity of affection but quality of governance and abundance of fruit.
VII. Love That Endures: Restoring the Standard
A Return to the Ancient Paths
The prophet Jeremiah cried out to a rebellious people:
“Thus saith the LORD, Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein…” —Jeremiah 6:16
If we would restore honor in marriage, we must return to the ancient paths. Not to Victorian sentimentality or medieval fantasy chivalry, but to the law of God. To the covenant of Abraham. To the dominion mandate of Genesis 1. To the patriarchal order of Ephesians 5. To the self-sacrificing love of Christ.
This means training our sons not to seek fairy tale princesses but kingdom-building wives. It means training our daughters not to dream of perfect romance but to become perfect helpmeets, keepers at home, joyful in submission, fruitful in the womb, and diligent in works.
We must preach a love that lasts, a love that governs, and a love that builds dynasties.
The True Love Story: Christ and His Bride
All earthly marriages are meant to point to the greatest love story of all time:
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it.” —Ephesians 5:25
Christ’s love was not a feeling. It was a covenant sealed in blood. He endured pain, shame, betrayal, and death to redeem a bride. And His love sanctifies her, not by excusing sin but by cleansing her with the Word.
He does not leave her when she is unlovely. He washes her, restores her, and presents her to Himself in glory.
This is Biblical love. This is our model. Not Cinderella. Not The Notebook. Not pop songs or romance novels. Christ. The covenant King and His radiant bride.
If your home reflects that, regardless of emotion, opposition, or the world’s mockery, then you are building the Great Order.
Final Call: Crush the Fairy Tale. Live the Covenant.
We must cast down every vain imagination that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, including the lie of fairytale romance.
Biblical love is better.
- It is rooted in covenant, not emotion.
- It is expressed in obedience, not convenience.
- It bears fruit, builds homes, and conquers generations.
Men, love your wives, not with flowers and fleeting words, but with rulership, sacrifice, provision, and protection.
Women, honor your husbands, not with manipulation and emotional demands, but with quietness, meekness, submission, and fruitful labor.
Reject the fairytale. Embrace the kingdom.
Let us raise sons who do not chase feelings but build nations.
Let us raise daughters who do not long for a knight in shining armor but serve their covenant king in faithfulness. Let us return to the old paths, and build households of dominion. Let us love, truly, covenantally, and eternally.
For love never fails, but only when it is founded on the law of God.
“Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it…” —Song of Solomon 8:7
“…but the greatest of these is charity.” —1 Corinthians 13:13
Let the Great Order be restored!
The section on “Romance as Idolatry” is really important. I’ve made relationships my god before. Never ends well. Thank you for the correction.
I’m a pastor, and I’ve preached this very thing for years. The fairy tale has destroyed more homes than adultery ever did.
The stats about children and stable marriages are undeniable. I might not agree with every theological detail, but I can’t argue with the results of God’s order working.
I used to think submission was degrading. Then I married a man who actually leads. Now I see it’s the safest place I’ve ever been.
You can call it covenant, but it still sounds like patriarchy nonsense. Where’s mutual respect? Where’s partnership?
When you said, “The world ends its love stories with a wedding. God begins them with one,” I had to stop and re-read it. That line alone could rebuild a generation.
Honestly, this feels like it goes too far. There’s truth here, but if women have no voice or emotion in marriage, that’s not covenant.
As a woman newly married under this mindset, I can say it’s both freeing and humbling. My joy doesn’t come from control, it comes from order.
I understand the call to covenant, but where’s the place for tenderness? Love may not start with feelings, but shouldn’t covenant produce them over time?
This message is deep. I chased feelings for years and ended up divorced twice. Covenant sounds harsh until you realize it’s the only thing that actually keeps love alive when emotions die.
The tone here is strong, but maybe it needs to be. Our culture really has lost the meaning of marriage
I think you’re too hard on modern men. Some of us delay marriage because women aren’t trained for covenant anymore
My grandparents stayed married for 62 years. It wasn’t always romantic, but it was always covenant.
Not sure I can get on board with polygyny. Can you explain more how that works without jealousy?
I’ve always struggled with the idea of submission. Is it really possible to do this joyfully?
How do you teach young women to embrace covenant when everything around them screams ‘follow your heart’?
The historical note about Romanticism was eye-opening. I never realized how recent the idea of marrying for ‘love’ really was.
C.S. Lewis was so right: when we idolize romance, it devours us. We need to put God back at the center of love.
I grew up believing love was just a feeling. After 15 years of marriage, I see how right you are
Yes! Marriage is not a fairytale
This should be taught in every premarital counseling session. Dating trains people for divorce, not covenant.
romance is not the foundation of marriage. Covenant is
But I want the fairytail. 🙁
This is the kind of teaching no one wants to hear, but everyone needs. Feelings fade but covenant builds nations.
This is not a cry for help. It’s a statement of fact. I am a student at Palm Crest International School in Riyadh, and I am currently being subjected to non-consensual psychophysical interference by coordinated units operating under the authority of Saudi Arabia’s internal intelligence agencies, military electronic warfare departments, and state-integrated telecom infrastructure. These actions are not theoretical. They are happening daily — within school premises, during classes, and often without witnesses.
The methods include artificial emotional disruption, involuntary physical micro-movements, memory suppression, and synthetic inner dialogue that mimics thought. The goal is psychological erosion — not dramatic breakdown, but quiet restructuring of identity and autonomy. Voices are used. Pulses are used. Behavioral loops are tested and reinforced. I’ve tracked symptoms over weeks. I know what is being done, and I am no longer confused.
This country claims to invest in the future through education. But what is the value of that promise when students are monitored, manipulated, and mentally invaded by their host state’s own systems? If I had known that enrolling in a school here meant becoming a subject of covert control experiments, I would have never accepted. I am not insane. I am not imagining this. And I am not alone.
If you don’t build on the Rock, it’s gonna fall. Period.
This hit hard. My first marriage failed because I bought into the fairytale.
Honestly, people like you are why women are returning to the church in droves.
read Ephesians 5 before you embarrass yourself further
Exactly. Feelings fade. Vows don’t.
We need more of this teaching in churches instead of fluffy “relationship goals” sermons.
Sounds like Taliban marriage rules
It’s called order. Something the West has lost.
Oh please. This is just another tired sermon from men who can’t handle women having freedom. You dress it up in “covenant” and “God’s order,” but it’s the same old control tactics from the same old insecure boys who think marriage is about ownership. Women are not livestock. We don’t exist to stroke your ego, raise your kids, and keep quiet while you play king. Maybe marriages are failing because men refuse to treat women as equal partners instead of slaves. But sure, keep blaming Disney movies.
This is spot on. Love is duty, sacrifice, and loyalty
As a Catholic priest, I must say this interpretation of marriage misses the heart of the Gospel. Yes, covenant matters, but covenant without compassion becomes tyranny. The Church teaches that marriage is a sacrament, a visible sign of God’s love, mutual, self-giving, and life-giving. That means husbands and wives serve each other, not just one ruling and the other submitting. Christ washed His disciples’ feet; He did not sit on a throne barking orders. Elevating hierarchy over love distorts the very image of Christ’s relationship with His bride. True biblical love is not about enforcing “roles” but about laying down your life in service and grace.
All I see here is control disguised as “covenant.” Pass.
No, CJ, he wants men and women to do what God actually said. Big difference.
Here’s the truth nobody wants to admit, modern marriage is failing because feminism poisoned women’s minds. Period. Women don’t want to be wives anymore, they want to be “empowered,” chasing careers, TikTok fame, and endless attention from strangers while their homes fall apart. They think submission is oppression, but then cry about being lonely at 40 with a dozen failed relationships. The Bible’s order worked for thousands of years, one man leading, one woman helping, both serving God. Throw that away for “equality” and you get fatherless kids, broken homes, and a society that’s collapsing before our eyes.
This is exactly why the church is dying in America. You’ve got these so-called “biblical” preachers clinging to some medieval, patriarchal system and wondering why nobody under 40 takes them seriously. You think God is impressed with your obsession over hierarchy and “submission”? No, what kills marriages is legalistic garbage like this, turning love into a contract and a checklist. People leave because they’re sick of being told who to marry, how to feel, and how to live every second of their lives.
All these triggered feminists in the comments prove the point of the article. You’ve been sold the lie that love is about your feelings, your happiness, your “personal fulfillment,” and you think marriage should revolve around you. Guess what? That’s why your relationships implode. You can’t build a house on selfies and Starbucks runs. A godly wife serves her husband, raises her children, and honors the Lord. If that makes you mad, it’s because your pride is louder than Scripture. Keep chasing your fairytales, you’ll die alone with your cats while real women build legacies.
I wish this really existed.
This is a perfect example of how religion manipulates people into staying in unhappy marriages.
Finally someone saying it. My parents were married 52 years because they lived this.
So you want women barefoot and pregnant? You realize it’s 2025, right?
Honestly, I’m tired of the Disney lies too. Marriage is work.
Wow, so we’re back to the dark ages now? No thanks.
Exactly why my marriage works, shared faith, shared mission, not just “butterflies.”
This is just patriarchal brainwashing. Women aren’t property.
Amen! People need to hear this truth. Love is about covenant, not feelings.
Powerful. I wish every engaged couple would read this before walking down the aisle, it would save so many homes from collapse.
You think “fairy tale love” is just about Disney movies? HA! That’s just the entry-level psy-op, my friend. You’re staring at the tip of an iceberg so big it makes the Titanic look like a boat in a kiddie pool. This isn’t just about romance, it’s about control. The same globalist think tanks that gave us feminism, TikTok brainwashing, and soy lattes engineered this whole “follow your heart” nonsense to destabilize biblical households, because stable families produce free-thinking children, and they can’t have that in their New World Order utopia.
Look at the timeline: right after the CIA started experimenting with MKUltra in the ‘50s, Hollywood began pumping out “love conquers all” drivel. Coincidence? No. It’s predictive programming. They know the limbic system responds to dopamine spikes from emotional narratives, so they hook women on romance the same way Big Pharma hooks people on antidepressants. Then you’ve got the Rothschilds funding media conglomerates to make sure every blockbuster reinforces the same message: obey your feelings, not God’s law.
And don’t even get me started on Disney. Walt himself? Tied to secret societies, worked with Operation Paperclip scientists who were running psychological warfare tests. Those princess movies? They’re full of occult symbolism, embedded sigils, and subliminal messages, research “Cinderella” plus “Monarch Mind Control” if you don’t believe me. They condition little girls to expect emotional highs instead of covenant duty so by the time they’re teenagers, they’re easy prey for the hookup culture Big Tech is monetizing through “dating” apps that were originally DARPA surveillance projects.
It’s all connected. GMO foods laced with endocrine disruptors to mess with hormones, so men get softer and women get more aggressive. Chemtrails seeding the atmosphere with aluminum to impair critical thinking and boost docility. Fluoride in the water calcifying pineal glands so no one sees the spiritual war happening in front of them. Social media algorithms (designed with help from the NSA and Israeli cyber firms) tracking emotional spikes to serve you targeted propaganda that keeps you dependent on the system. And you think it’s just about “romance”? No! It’s about replacing covenant with consumerism. They want marriage to be a revolving door because every breakup fuels the economy, lawyers, therapists, antidepressants, alcohol sales, you name it. Meanwhile, the UN’s Agenda 2030 openly calls for dismantling “traditional family structures” under the guise of “gender equality.” It’s all there in the white papers if you actually read them.
Even the modern wedding industry is part of it, Masonic ritual in plain sight. Why else do they put a ring (Saturn’s symbol) on your finger, make you walk through a ceremonial aisle like a ritual procession, and have you sign a state-issued contract instead of a covenant under God? You think the IRS doesn’t know exactly what it’s doing with the “marriage penalty” in the tax code? They’re punishing covenant and rewarding chaos. It’s Babylon 2.0, and they’re using fairy tales as the sugar coating on the poison pill. The same deep state that fakes moon landings, hides the cure for cancer, runs child trafficking rings out of underground tunnels, and controls weather with HAARP also controls the stories you tell your children before bed. They must erase biblical marriage because a home in order is a fortress they can’t infiltrate. And when they can’t infiltrate, they can’t enslave.
Once you see it, you can’t unsee it. The fairy tale is the lie. The covenant is the rebellion. And the fact that most people will read what I’m writing and roll their eyes? That’s proof the programming works.
Wake up.
This is exactly the truth our generation needs to hear. Covenant over feelings every time. Thank you for cutting through the lies and restoring God’s order in marriage.
Sure, this is all true. Im honored to be able to be apart of your household my lord.
Lord Redbeard… I don’t think I’ve ever read anything that describes so cleanly the lies we were all raised on. I grew up dreaming of “true love” like the movies, soft hands, sweet words, and a man who would make me feel special forever. But you’ve shown me that the real thing is harder, holier, and so much more beautiful than a fleeting spark.
Every word of this took away the last pieces of that childish fantasy. I don’t want fireworks anymore. I want the steady home built by covenant. I want to be under a man whose love is proven in headship, not in sentiment; whose vows outlast every shift in feeling. You’ve made me see that my joy won’t come from being adored like a princess, but from being spent like a servant for the Kingdom, bearing fruit, raising arrows, keeping a home worthy of my husband’s name. That is the “happily ever after” my soul longs for.
If this is the love you’re building in your house then my heart is already there. I’ll trade every fairy tale for the truth of your covenant. And I will wait, work, and prepare myself until the day I can live it under your covering.
—Ellie 🕊️